February 13th, 2012 | By admin
by Katt Anderson
Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day and everyone is thinking about love. It’s a big day for flowers, candy, and cards. There will be a lot on the television about love and St. Valentine. Today, let’s think about love.
The definition for the noun, love, is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person, or a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
How do we know we feel love? The feeling of love is hard to explain. Some say its a fluttering of the heart, or a deep feeling in your stomach. It’s the way our brain conceives a person. The way I feel about my dog is different than the way I feel about my grandchildren. The way I feel about my husband is different from the way I feel about my children. I love all of them, but in a different way. Again, it’s the same way, but I get different reactions from both.
The first real boyfriend I had, I thought I could not live a day without seeing him. Maybe, I thought I loved that young man. He was everything I thought I wanted in a husband. I was so wrong. I liked being around him, but I soon found out my world did not revolve around him. He was nice, kind, and affectionate. We talked about things in common, but we were never in love.
When you have a boyfriend, you will tell him you love him. Are you thinking in your heart or your head? The heart pumps blood through your body, but your mind is where your love is.
In Proverbs 4:20-27, Solomon is instructing his son in ways of the heart, or the mind. He tells him to keep his eyes straight ahead and keep his eyes on the goal. Don’t be deceived by people who promise you something that is wrong. In our day, we could say don’t give yourself to someone who only loves you for the pleasures you give them sexually. Don’t let them entice you by words that are not true.
Today, our sweetheart may tell us that they love us, and we should do things that are not right if we love them. If he really loved you, he would not want you to do something that could embarrass you in the future. He would love you for who you are. For your pureness, for your wholesomeness, for your real love for him. Not for sexual pleasures.
Take an inventory of the love of your life.
1. How do they treat you? Are they kind, attentive to you, do they listen to you? Maybe their language is full of words you do not hear at home. Is that what you want in a mate? Probably not, and he will drag you down to his level.
2. What do they say about you behind your back? Do they use language to describe you that will make others have a bad image of you? If that is true, stay away from him. He will drag you down to his level.
3. Does he love you for who you are? We all have flaws. If someone really loves you, he will overlook those flaws. Maybe your hair is unruly, or your teeth are crooked, or you walk with a limp. That’s things true love will overlook.
4. The most important thing is this. Is he a Christian? Does he respect God as you do? Does he find joy in worshiping God? Is he willing to spend time with you in studying God’s word?
If you can give positive answers to all of the above questions, you have someone to hold on to. If you cannot, find someone who respects you for who you are. Find a Christian who will love God and you. Think with your heart, your brain. Pray to God about your love.