July 14th, 2014 | By admin
By Katt Anderson
“I’ll forgive, but I won’t forget” is said so many times when someone hurts us. We’ve not forgiven if we still remember what was done to us. We have to forget to receive full forgiveness. I’ve know people who continue to dwell on a wrong done to them and they are very unhappy people. Just like a cut will fester if you don’t keep it clean, so does the mind if you don’t forget someone when asked to.
Jesus taught us in the Model Prayer, Matthew 6:9-13 to “and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” (NKJV) This is sometimes called the “Lord’s Prayer,” but the disciples asked Jesus how they should pray, and this is how he replied. Forgiveness was important to Jesus. If Jesus taught forgiveness, we must learn to forgive people.
King David comes to my mind when I think of someone with a forgiving spirit. He had done nothing wrong to King Saul, but King Saul hated him. He wanted him dead, and he tried to kill him. It’s sad to see the hate that filled King Saul’s heart. David did not have that hate. He wanted to “make things right.” He wanted to have peace. What makes it worse is the Cush, the Benjaminite began telling lies about David. Read Psalms 7 and listen to what David said.
We’ve all had someone tell things about us that are not true. It’s sad to see someone with so much hate in their heart that they want to hurt your character, but this happens. David was so distressed because of the lies that had been told about him. Read verses 3-5. David was so upset that he prayed to God that if he had done something wrong, or these things that had been said, that God would let his enemy overtake him and “. . .trample my life to the earth.” How distressed David was! How hurt he must have been! David had forgiven Cush and Saul, but had they asked for forgiveness?
There are two sides to forgiveness. 1. The person has to ask for forgiveness. 2. The person he/she asks has to forgive. I can forgive you without you asking, but it doesn’t forgive you. It helps me because I don’t hold a grudge against you anymore. If you never ask for forgiveness, the Lord doesn’t forgive you. You have to ask God to forgive you when you’ve sinned.
Will you remember the wrong done you? Probably. It’s hard for us as humans to not remember something that happened to us. It does put us on guard, and we are more cautious around that person and we’ll try not to be hurt again. Only God forgives and never remembers. We mush guard ourselves to not make what happened to us a top priority in our everyday life. If I constantly think about it, I’ve not forgiven. If I constantly talk about what happened to me, I’ve not forgiven. It should not be the most important thing in our lives.
It’s hard to not think about what someone did to us, but if we truly forgive them, we will. The hurt will not rule our lives. God will be triumphant. The best example of forgiveness is David. Twice he could have killed King Saul, once in a cave where he cut off part of King Saul’s garment (1 Samuel 24:1-22) and another where King Saul’s army had camped and David took his spear and his water jug (1 Samuel 26:1-25). Yes, David could have killed King Saul and his worries would have been over, but would they? Wouldn’t he have had a lot of grief because he didn’t forgive? It’s better to forgive and go on with your life than to harbor hatred all of your life.